Thoughts are like the current of a running stream. Place your hand in the water and it flows through your fingers. You can’t grasp liquid, no matter how hard you try. Just like with water, it’s impossible to hold your thoughts because they aren’t solid objects. Your brain keeps them moving, constantly generating new topics of fantasy to occupy your mind.
For a couple of decades, I had a consistent zazen practice (sitting meditation in the Zen Buddhism tradition). I’d rarely skip a day because it helped center me during some very high stress years when I was an executive in Hollywood. But interestingly, when I left Los Angeles to spend the next five months seeking shama (inner peace) on a road trip with my dog, Yoda, I began to meditate less often. Eventually I moved to Austin for four years, and then, in 2015, I moved to New Jersey. Up until a few months ago, I couldn’t remember the last time I regularly practiced zazen. Last year was a biggie: Eric had two surgeries, a film I directed/produced got distribution which means I was sucked into last minute urgent post-production, a close friend passed away, other loved ones had life threating issues, and election and divided world news was incessant. I realized things in my head had gotten LOUD. That flow of endless thoughts became deafening and paralyzed me.
This is when I was finally drawn back to the meditation cushion. The interesting thing about meditation is it makes it abundantly clear how much noise is generated by thinking. When you sit and focus on your breath, it’s easier to observe what is often called the chattering monkey mind. I’ll inhale and tell myself that I am going to solely focus on my breath, and by the time I’m exhaling (literally two seconds later), I am thinking about what to eat for lunch, or about how I need to organize my closet, or even about a friend who ghosted me twenty years ago.
These last few months of once again having a consistent meditation practice have been instrumental in helping me relearn how to detach from my thoughts, release them, and just let them flow by. I’ve been noticing how much of life we all miss because we are lost in a fantasy world scripted inside our heads. How often are we truly present in the here and now? Most of our thoughts involve worry about stuff that probably will never happen, and by ruminating on those things we miss out on how truly electrifying the world in the present moment can be. By learning to not buy into the perceived importance of my ever-generating thoughts, I’m learning to ignore them, and to instead focus on seeing the infinite unfolding micro moments of magic that are right in front of me (this was last year’s New Year’s resolution and is a practice that has deeply enriched my life).
Things like the sparkle of frost on the morning grass, a unique cloud formation mirrored on serene glass-like lake water, Lunabelle’s joy at seeing her friends on our dog walks, the sweet earthy crunch of a carrot I harvested on New Year’s Day, a whirlpool swirl of a frozen puddle of water, or Eric giving me a surprise hug from behind when I’m cooking dinner.
The more I release my thoughts, the easier it is to notice the magic in the seemingly mundane moments of life’s daily activities. It’s reassurance that despite the chaos of the world, there is always the extraordinary to be found in the ordinary. That realization is so profound that it just about makes me weep from the beauty of it all.
So, with that in mind, dearest New Year, my promise to you is that I will continue to release thoughts because nothing can replace the remarkable unfolding of the experience of right now.
In short, Year 2025, I think I love you already. Please love me back.
Sincerely,
Kee Kee
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